Attract Your Perfect Relationship

Are you strategically attracting what is perfect for you or are you a zap-happy attraction magnet? Every day you draw things into your life as a direct result of the concentrated thoughts, wishes and ideas that you come up with. The more you think the thoughts and wish the wishes, the more the ’system’ conspires to make them happen.  And sometimes you attract things that you don’t want.  So you can thank your lucky stars that someone’s come up with a technology designed to help you strategically attract only those things that are a match and fit for you..
And if you are a bit dubious about the idea that you can order what you want from the universe and get it… a bit of back-up science might help to convince you!
After 8 years of research and psychological testing UK Psychologist and university research scientist, Dr Richard Wiseman has proven that you can change your luck and live a charmed life.   Wiseman lays out the data in his book, The Luck Factor At last proof of what we’ve always known …
YOU have power to change your life by changing your thoughts and attitudes and focusing on what you really want.  The question is HOW DO YOU DO THAT?

And before you even begin.. there are some things to be being…
Pre-key 1 Be in awe of your power.

You are able to generate situations you don’t want and you have the power to create an amazing reality.  You also have the choice to concentrate your thoughts in the right direction and get what you want.

Pre-key 2 Know what you want to attract?

Is it a ‘perfect’ partner, financial security or that ‘ideal’ job.  Maybe it’s clients or customers that are perfect for you.    What do you want?  AND, in case you started to think about what you don’t want; it’s OK!  You have a great starting point. What you want is probably the opposite of what you don’t want.  If you think ‘I don’t want to work 9 - 5′ then what’s the opposite of that?  Or ask ‘If I don’t want 9-5, [or whatever your thing is] what do I want instead? Follow that thought.   Now give it a name…and say

I am attracting my perfect……. enter your word/s here.

Pre-Key 2 Universal Perfection does not exist, ‘perfection’ is what uniquely matches and fits YOU.

Sound like that might work for you?  Great!  When you brush aside pre-conceived ideas and look in another direction, you are more open to get a sense of what’s perfect for you and to know how that feels.  Because you do know, don’t you..

Key 1 - Find your zone.

What’s true of you when you’re at your best?  At some or many times in your life you’ve been in what some call ‘the zone’. There are as many phrases for this feeling as there people who have had it.  YOU have had this sense.  You might call it something else.   What you might not know is that each time you’re ‘there’ your body takes on almost the exact same configuration.   Your body knows how to do you at your best.   The Key is to find your ‘zone’ learn how your body does it and practise.
Your bodily awareness of yourself in your ‘zone’ ‘at your best’ [by the way what is it like for you - take a moment to get in touch with that cellular memory... I teach my clients how to model themselves at their best.   This is based on the MythoSelf ®-tm  process.  Using this process I teach people initially to reactivate in their body the state where for them anything is possible. This is th eplace to begin.

Key 2 -  Connect to the world.

Each of us is part of something greater than ourselves.  The world is greater than you isn't it and all the greater for having you in it.   YOU are a very important part of the world.  Feel yourself tuning into the world around you sensing the ripples of who you are connecting..

Imagine yourself as a jigsaw piece in the great universal jigsaw puzzle.  Your unique shape has a tailor-made exclusive reserved space in that puzzle.   Take a moment to think of your connection to the world and get in touch with your body as you do so.    Notice how this feels different from being 'in your zone'.

Key 3 -  Tune into your Purpose Star.

James Hillman, author of The Soul's Code says, "Purpose, does not usually appear as a clearly framed goal, but more likely as a troubling, unclear urge coupled with a sense of indubitable importance".

When you get that sense of yourself at your best and a feeling of being part of some great universal plan, you will experience your sense of purpose.  What would it be like to have a purpose star guiding you in every action?  Each time you are faced with a decision, simply ask yourself 'is this going to further my purpose [even if indirectly] and do what’s right for you.

Key 4 -  Get specific ask for everything.

Take a piece of paper and on one side write ‘my ideal clients, job, partner will have the following attributes’.  Without censoring, jot down everything that comes to mind.

For each attribute, ask yourself how YOU match up.   If you want someone who is loving, how loving are you?  If you want the freedom to be yourself, how often do you wear a mask or pretend to be what others want you to be?
On the other side of the paper make a list of the areas you want to transform.  Always use the positive.   I am more giving, I am more loving. And then write down ideas for how you can be more like this.  Ask other people, be bold

Key 5 - Take Attractive Action.

If you want to be more loving you could resolve to do one loving act every day.  If you want to be freer to be yourself you could make a point of saying ‘no’ when you might previously have said ‘yes’.  Go on a course, read some books, meditate; do whatever it takes.

Key 6 -  Act-ivate your dream.

Look at your original list each day and imagine life with your perfect partner, job or clients. Use all your senses and make sure it’s as if you are living it for real, not watching yourself in the distance.

Bonus Key 7 - Be picky picky picky - go for what is perfect for YOU! [and you alone]

When I first started doing private one-on-one work with clients I wasn’t too picky and as  As I became more experienced I started to define which clients I loved to work with and what it was about them.  I described them as being on a scale with microwave at one end [those that are semi cooked into some of this stuff and are willing to pay me to take them even further] and raw meat at the other [those who are resistant, angry and who really belong with a psychotherapist because they need tenderising, softening up, seasoning and cooking for a long time slowly in the oven...and I don't do that!].  I prefer the microwave types.

One day a client turned up who was so negative and impossible that I got he was one of those people who pay good money just to say that NOTHING works.   I was part of his program to prove that he had no alternative but to stay miserable.  When he left I thought to myself ‘there’s another category’  FROZEN raw meat  and I never want another client like that again.

So the next question I had to ask myself was ‘if you don’t want that what do you want?’.. Who is your perfect client..?  I sat down and did my list..

Within 2 days of doing this process to attract my ‘perfect clients’, Kilhan turned up.  He’d done my Pulling Power course, had a couple of empowerment sessions with me and been on the MythoSelf ® course designed by my mentor Joseph Riggio.  He felt like he needed a ‘refresher’…

WOW and double wow.

He was an absolute joy to work with and since then I’ve only had interesting, up-for-it, clients who like what I do and who are willing to pay the fees that my skills merit.  In fact they love paying me because they get that having me in their life is as valuable as the luxury car they drive and the expensive restaurants they eat in.  ‘Perfect’ for me! Perfect for them!

So…What’s ‘perfect’ for you?

Remember your thoughts are your power.  Be alert for the thoughts that send you into a spiral.. begin to notice when the thought starts, what’s going on in your body especially in the neck to top of leg area..  Begin to recognise the signals of negativity before they take hold..and shift yourself simply by relaxing the muscles of your belly and the muscles located opposite them in your back. This is a quick way to begin to get yourself into the kind of state where you can let go and just be.   You’ll soon find yourself stopping and consciously changing what you are thinking by focusing on WHAT YOU WANT…