Attract Your Perfect Relationship

You see, I actually forgot how persuasive a certain very simple flirting 
strategy can be — to increase the responsiveness of potential flirting
subjects/partners.

For years now, I’ve been studying influence, flirting, & persuasion 
skills for so long — I learned that overall — the more influential &
 powerful I became with the technology of NLP (Neuro Linguistic
Programming), the less indirect and the less covertly influential I had 
to be — to invoke the same powerful emotions — easily & naturally.

If you still don’t know what NLP is, check out this link http://www.altfeld.com/mastery/geninfo/new.html

As a result of developing myself with these skills over time, I’ve re
lied less & less on “tactics” and moved more towards being real with 
people — that is, being real ***WITH*** these skills honed sharp, as 
opposed to “being real” but socially uninformed, unrefined & unaware.

This distinction is Very, Very Important. 

Being real does have countless advantages.

Being other-than-real with
 people will often be detected, even amongst the people least aware of
technologies such as NLP. 

And still, using certain strategies when the situations call for it –
on top of being real — has many other useful advantages.

I think I’ll 
keep reminding myself of this from now on.

Last year I  visited Sydney Australia to run a weekend seminar
(”Linguistic Wizardry”), and during the evenings before the seminar, one
 of my Aussie associates had set up a few social evening outings for me
– in which I would meet up with several other NLP enthusiasts, and, for
 want of a better term, show off a bit….Go out flirting, essentially.

 And what I wanted to set up was — I wanted to run some “cold-reading”
techniques, whereby in a scant few minutes, I’d learn so much about
another person, they get the impression I’m either amazingly naturally
 insightful — or psychic. And no, I don’t think I’m psychic.

If you’ve been on one of my lists for a while, you’ve heard me mention
 handwriting analysis before as one of the great ways to lead into
 NLP-based flirting, because nearly everyone can do handwriting without
 explanation, whereas NLP takes way too long to explain to people who 
don’t know anything about it.

The interim result is usually to get an audience of 1 or more highly
 responsive people. Then often — depending on the environment — this
 can lead to a line of people waiting to learn more about themselves.
 Which gives me open opportunities to flirt as I do my thing.

Well, I planned to have the guys I was meeting — find women they wanted 
to test me with. Our first real opportunity of the evening was while we
 were seated outside at a large restaurant/bar in North Sydney (the Oaks
in Neutral Bay, for any readers local to Sydney!). Near our table,
there was a group of three people. Two women, and one man. I had 
planned to have our group invite the ladies over to test me with
 handwriting analysis. In point of fact, there was no “testing” to be
 done, as I already know how accurate it can be; it was more to create
 opportunities to use NLP while flirting with them, and demonstrate the 
fun that can be created for all parties.

So one of our guys got up & started towards their table. Then another of 
the guys in my group — who was the first to admit how pushy he could be
 in some flirting situations — said to the fellow who’d stood up,

“Go for the guy. Don’t ask the women.”

I heard a bell ring somewhere inside my head — with immediate
 recognition of the power of the strategy. I knew it would work. And I
was laughing out loud because somehow, I’d forgotten how powerful it
 could be; I’d discarded it without any clear reason — from my common 
behavior.

So after the first guy stood up, and the 2nd guy gave his 
instructions, I added:

”Don’t just not ask the women. 
Instead, completely ignore them for now.”

The aim was to have the guys at our table invite the guy from the table
 of 3 — to test my handwriting analysis (i.e., personality cold-reading) 
skills. And to completely ignore the women. The aim was to create a 
response inside their minds of intrigue & curiosity. And build inside 
their minds — the desire to have it done for them too.

So the guy at that table initially declined the suggestion! But guess 
what: The women at his table — convinced him to do it!  2 minutes 
later, he came over to get his handwriting done. And while I began to 
do the reading, one of our guys got the women to come over to judge how 
accurate I was.

Now they were part of what was going on — but
 still NOT the center of any of the men’s attention. For want of a
 better description — that created a “void” of attention that they were
 used to getting from groups of men.

My aim, in spite of this process/strategy — was to create a fun time 
for everyone. I had no ulterior motives. I believe that
 less-than-positive ulterior motives will bleed through in our
 unconscious behavior & communication, so had I not had good intentions 
for everyone, the strategy would have been experienced more as a 
deceptive tactic. Not useful. And not related to what I was doing.

 Anyhow, without fail, this strategy led rapidly to the girls asking to 
have their handwriting done. And that led to us finding out a LOT about
 the other group. We found out that one of the women was the guy’s 
sister, and the other was his girlfriend. We found out a lot about all
 three of them.

Often, people will volunteer incredibly personal 
information about themselves — because within just a couple of minutes, 
we’re not strangers at all anymore — I’d know more about them than most
 of their acquaintances would know. And of course, everyone had a great 
time.

Afterwards, I thought about this a bit further. I think it would work 
similarly for both genders. I.e., let’s say you’re a guy out with a
 group of other guys, and you see a group of women out with a smaller
 group of men. Apart from obvious clues, sometimes figuring out who’s
 with whom — and who’s available, can be tricky.

One of the best ways
 to connect up with people in that other group, is to find a way to get 
rapport with the *guys* in that other group, in a way that creates 
curiosity & interest within the ladies in that group. That may seem
 counter-intuitive to what you’re really interested in — but it may be
 one of the fastest routes towards getting rapport with those women — in
 a way that doesn’t offend any of the guys they’re with.

Conversely — let’s say you’re a woman out for a night on the town with
 the girls, and you see a group of people, mostly men, with a few women 
amongst them. First of all, chances are you’re going to be able to read
 what’s going on from the body language better than men would, but let’s
 say you don’t know entirely who’s with whom, and you want to step into
 that group setting somehow. Why not first gain some social acceptance 
from the women first, thereby putting yourself more closely into the
 awareness of the men in that group. Let things develop first by 
involving the women in the group. Then, perhaps once you’re more
 closely involved in talking with the women there — you’ll learn better
 which of the men may fancy you — or — which of them *you* fancy the 
most.

So — once again I’ll sheepishly remind myself of the value of strategic
tactics used for GOOD purposes. Sometimes it’s worth remembering they 
can & do have power.

Perhaps you’ve done something along these lines before, and are reminded
 as I write — how useful they might be?

Or perhaps this is new to you
?

If you have questions about how I (& the guys I went out with) did this
– or perhaps I’m not explaining the process well enough for your
 tastes, drop me an email or post a reply below. I’ll take it to another level for you, and
 help you make something like this strategy work more easily for you.

Happy flirting, flirtopians!

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