Attract Your Perfect Relationship

Give 100 Per Cent Attention
One of the biggest challenges for most of us is to give someone 100 per cent attention. Outwardly we may appear to be listening to them, but inside we may be mind reading, jumping to conclusions, rehearsing what to say, filtering, judging or daydreaming. If not reined in, our minds will board any passing express train of thought. Our thoughts will distract us, cloud our minds and block our receptivity to what’s going on. Have you ever been listening to someone and found yourself asking. ‘Sorry, what was that you said?’

Zen Masters used to come up behind their students and hit them hard on the head. It was to remind them that they weren’t present. If they had been, they’d have noticed and been able to take evasive action.
I’m not going to hit you on the head, but here’s another way to focus on what’s happening to your body.

Body Focus

Keep your eyes open and focus on the powerpoint area, just below your navel. Keep your attention there.
Imagine you’re aware of what’s going on inside your body – how the blood flows and so on.

Notice your feet and hands.

As you focus on your body, you will find it’s almost impossible to have thoughts.

Paying attention also means being relaxed. You are not thinking about what’s going to happen, you are not thinking what has happened, you are just there, in the present, as things are happening. That way you get pure information.  And you are much more likely to come up with a good response to it.
When you notice you’re flying ‘away with the fairies’, do the body focus exercise above and you’ll soon be back giving 100 per cent attention to what’s going on around you.