Attract Your Perfect Relationship

We give away clues to our emotions by the way we refer to the body in our spoken language. Our language is rich in ‘bodywords’. Being aware of these words and how we use them helps us to get in touch with our body as a living expressive changing entity.
As you read through the following list of phrases, focus your mind on the parts of the body that are mentioned and notice what sensations and thoughts come up for you.

The Face

On the face of it. Think about your face and the faces of people you know. The face is first place we check out when we are interacting with someone. We often use the word ‘face’ to speak about the outward appearance of things. This suggests that although the face is the first place we look, we are aware that there is more.

Putting on a brave face. How often do you put on a face and what kind of faces do you put on? When we put on faces, we are hiding our true feelings behind a mask. This fools very few people, although many people choose to accept things ‘at face value’.

Losing face. This is a term we use to denote a blow to our self-esteem. When you lose face, your face literally lets go, drops and acts out a flood of emotions. You are no longer ‘putting on a face’. What would happen if you were strong enough to ‘face up to things’ instead?

Keep your chin up. We say this to encourage people, to boost their spirits when times are hard. When the chin drops and quivers it’s often a sign that someone is about to cry.

If looks could kill. We can manipulate our face so that it sends out a flood of nasty emotions to someone. Often we do it unconsciously! What kind of looks do you send out? What might you achieve by monitoring how your feelings are affecting the ‘looks’ you give yout  making a conscious effort to send out loving looks more often?

The Neck and Shoulders

Sticking your neck out. This refers to taking risks. When someone sticks their neck out they are moving forward and exposing their face. It is both vulnerable and powerful. How often do you take risks and what do you lose by not sticking out your neck sometimes? Is your neck held stiffly in your shoulders?

Shouldering responsibility. If your shoulders slump forwards it might be because you have too much going on in your life and it’s overwhelming you. If they are tense, maybe you’re trying too hard to hold back the tide.

Swallowing your words. How often do you swallow your words? When you feel a lump in your throat, you are literally being choked by words unsaid or emotions unexpressed.

The Heart

Our language is full of expressions involving the word ‘heart’. We think of our heart as the core of our being.

My heart sank. We get feelings in our heart when we are confronted by severe disappointment or anxiety.

My heart isn’t in it. When this is the case you are doing something that isn’t in harmony with who you are. Notice when your heart isn’t in things and how that affects you. Maybe the feeling is telling you to place your heart somewhere else, where it can beat more freely.

To lose your heart. When someone falls in love they often feel as if they no longer have control over their heart because someone else has it.

To break a heart. This is the sense of your heart being cut off from the world when you have been hurt.

To open your heart. Attractive people have the ability to open their hearts to send and receive love freely. This is one of the most powerful qualities you can develop..
To become more aware of your body and how it talks, start by noticing bodywords when they come into a conversation.

While we are busy using bodywords, our body is equally busy shaping itself in relation to our emotions. Learning to understand how your emotions affect your body is vital if you are to realign yourself to move and interact in a more attractive way.