Attract Your Perfect Relationship

Archive for April, 2009

You know that there’s a whole world of potential waiting to be unleashed inside you.

So what’s stopping you?  And more to the point, what do you want.

This is the first question I ask my clients, after we’ve had a chat about this and that.

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Failed ‘Popstar’, Kelli Young recently announced she wants to join the mile high club. She’s confessed to being a fan of having sex in ‘funny places’   Kelli’s  not the only one.  Somewhere-else sex is a very popular pastime with the good and literate citizens of Aberdeen.  There’s been so much shagging going on in the loos of the Aberdeen Central Library that the council have been forced to install alarms that sound off when more than one person enters a cubicle at a time.

Despite the somewhat unsavoury connotations, ladies loos have long been a favourite spot for a bit of illicit rumpy pumpy.   The loo isn’t exactly designed for comfortable copulation but it definitely encourages positional creativity!

Shagging in unusual locations has much to recommend it.    In addition to the pure sexual thrill you get from doing it, you’ll most definitely feel a buzz when thinking about it beforehand and an enormous surge of excitement when you suggest it to your lover and sense them getting turned on!   It doesn’t stop there!

Days, months or even years later you can instantly revive your lover’s lust with a few key words that bring back those juicy memories.   AND as an added bonus,  it’s a great topic for discussion at a girls night out or even a dinner party  [Well it is at the kind of dinner parties I get invited to!].

“Where’s the strangest place you’ve ever had sex’ really gets the conversation going.

I’d advise waiting till some alcohol has been consumed by all before asking this one!

Somewhere-else sex is an adventure, it’s different and has an element of risk that gets both our adrenalin and our sex hormones pumping .  We are drawn to it in the same way many people indulge in adventure sports like snowboarding, surfing, motorcycle racing and skydiving.

If you want to feel those hormones pumping and kick-start your sex life into action, be prepared to embrace variety, change and to take advantage of the unexpected.  It’s too easy to fall into routines and always do it in bed or on holiday and if you’re really daring, on the living room sofa.

Try taking a few risks [not health risks I emphasise].Think about which illicit location you’d choose .   It could be in the open air, or shut in a closet.  Maybe you fancy it on a beach or in the woods [Warning! put something on the ground!! After a session in the woods during the summer, I emerged with a big smile on my face but 12 rather painful insect bites on my bum].

You might be tempted to a quick one in your neighbour’s garden shed or plump for a bunk up in Harrods’ furniture department.  Aeroplane loos are popular [unless you can afford first class in which case you get to do it on reclining beds under fluffy blankets!]  The choice of location is limited only by the size of your imagination.   When you start to focus on it, you’ll find yourself coming up with all sorts of wild ideas.

Happy somewhere-else sex!

‘Flirt Coach’ is based on what I teach and have learned from my clients over the last few years.  It is a workbook full of true stories and useful explorations to help you develop a positive and flirtatious way of life.  The first section helps you to work on yourself on the inside.  Section 2 is about developing skills to use with other people, Section 3  is about consolidation and networking Section 4 is a list of resources [books, tapes and courses]  that have helped change my life.

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1. Spend at least ten minutes every day thinking about what’s great about you.  Look into the mirror and compliment yourself!
2. Stand up tall with your feet about 18 inches apart, pull your shoulders back and down and make circular movements with your hips. Lick round the edges of your lips as you think of a sexy moment in your life.  Doing sexy body language consciously is a way of beginning to develop it as a natural way of being.
3. Start smiling at people you don’t normally interact with and notice the effect.
4. Pay attention to how other people speak and move.  Notice how they speak at different rates and volumes and move with different energy levels.   This is the first step in being able to develop an energetic rapport with others that will make interaction much smoother and more successful.
5. At the beginning of each day ask yourself what great opportunities to connect with people are going to present themselves.  You’ll be surprised how changing your focus allows you to detect things that may have previously gone unnoticed
6. If you go to a social event, don’t have a seek and hunt attitude to finding a partner.  See it simply as an opportunity to meet new people and expand your social network.  Most people meet their partners via people they know and when they least expect it!

Simon is 35 and  has been divorced for 2 years.  He’s ready for a new relationship but he hasn’t a clue how or where to start and by his own admission, his flirting skills are pretty rusty.
Liz is 42 and has carved  out a great career but it has been at the expense of developing a loving and lasting relationship. Most of her friends are married and she hasn’t had a relationship for three years.  Liz wants to find a man before it’s too late.

Liz and Simon are typical of the people who come to the Flirting Academy for help either via private coaching or by attending a flirting playshop, and like many before them they got more than they anticipated!

What is flirting?

You’ve probably got some frivolous associations attached to the word flirting.  Flirting is not a bad thing, or something you shouldn’t do.    I believe that flirting is a natural skill of human interaction that is an essential part of finding and developing romantic, social and professional relationships.
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